I want my children to grow up to be self sufficient.
I do believe that as teen-agers, they should be capable of doing their laundry, cleaning their room, and yes, making their own sandwiches.
Recently, I have learned that even though they can physically make their own lunch, sometimes they still need me to slather on the peanut butter and jelly on their sliced bread.
Our last two children at home were adopted as pre-schoolers from South Korea. Because of their age at adoption, I was not part of their first feedings. I didn't make bottles of warmed milk for them. I still believe they not only know that, but they feel it.
I do too.
And so, when my very capable, independent minded, sixteen year old asks me to make her a sandwich. I do. Why? Because it's not a need of her body, but of her heart.
